THERE IS A TIME AND A PLACE FOR TREATMENT OF PERPETRATOR BEHAVIORS AND ADDICTIONS.
The time is before a victim gets harmed. Treatment can also be mandated by the legal system. However, you get into treatment, wanting to change your thoughts, feelings and behaviors will improve success tremendously. You are getting help so you will be ultimately being happier and you do not have to carry the guilt or legal consequences for hurting someone. This type of commitment is something to be proud of.
What is domestic violence?
“One individual systematically abusing another to gain power or control in a domestic or intimate relationship.” In relationships where domestic violence occurs, instead of both partners being equal in the relationship, the balance of power is uneven and the perpetrator tries to maintain control over the victim. New Hope’s Department of Public Health
Domestic violence is not just gaining power and control in a relationship by using physical force. It can come in several different forms: Emotional, Verbal & Psychological Abuse, Financial, Spiritual & Cultural, Sexual & Physical Abuse.
What is the impact of domestic violence beyond your partner?
If you came from a home where there was domestic violence, then you may know:
“Child abuse and domestic violence often occur in the same family. Researchers have found that 50 percent to 70 percent of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children.
Children are 1,500 times more likely to be abused in homes where partner abuse occurs. Domestic violence may result in physical injury, psychological harm or neglect of children. There is a definite relationship between family violence and juvenile delinquency. These children have a six times greater chance of committing suicide, 24 percent greater chance committing sexual assault crimes and a 50 percent greater likelihood of abusing drugs and alcohol.
One of the most tragic outcomes of domestic violence is that well more than half of the young men between the ages of 11 and 22 who are in jail for homicide have killed their mother’s batterer. Children growing up in violent homes do not need to be physically abused to take on violent and delinquent behavior — it is enough to witness their mother’s abuse.” Understanding the effects of domestic violence: Psych-Central
THE GOOD NEWS IS …
“The good news is, because domestic violence is a learned behavior, it can also be “un-learned”. With appropriate accountability measures and self-awareness tools, abusive partners can go on to have healthy, respectful relationships if they accept responsibility for their actions, identify and challenge the belief systems which contributed to their unhealthy behaviors and learn healthy, non-violent ways to interact with their partners.
Because a perpetrator’s abusive behavior has often been learned over a period of many years, it can take a significant amount of time to change. As compared to Anger Management programs, Batterer’s Intervention is a much lengthier (minimum of 40 weeks) and comprehensive program which:
- Holds individuals accountable for their abusive behaviors and choices
- Addresses the root causes and belief systems which contributed to the violent behaviors
Challenges perpetrators to recognize and adjust their abusive behaviors and attitudes, with the goal of preventing violence in their current and future relationships.” New Hope’s Department of Public Health
WHAT VICTOR COUNSELING PRACTICES IN VICTOR, NY HAS TO OFFER:
In Addition, Victor Counseling Practice offers:
- We have convenient hours, in the evening and during the day. We accept most insurances. And DSS contracts. At times, we work with people who have financial hardship.
- Dorothy is licensed in NYS and has over 20 experience providing therapy. She is currently working on her doctorate in Counseling Education and co-parenting with families in crisis.
- Call/Text Victor Counseling Practices in Victor, NY at 585-444-1808for a consult or an appointment.
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