HAVE YOU BEEN FEELING CONTROLLED, ISOLATED, MANIPULATED AND PERHAPS SUBJECTED TO PHYSICAL ABUSED?
“Most relationships have difficult times, and almost every couple argues now and then. But violence is different from common marital or relationship problems. Domestic Violence is a pattern of abuse that a partner-former or current partner, spouse, or boyfriend or girlfriend-uses to control the behavior of another.
Domestic violence often starts with threats, name-calling, and slamming doors or breaking dishes, and it can build up to pushing, slapping, and other violent acts. If you are concerned about your relationship, ask yourself the following questions.
Does your partner:
- Embarrass you with put-downs?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Take your money or paycheck, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
- Make all the decisions?
- Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- Threaten to kill himself or herself?
- Prevent you from working or going to school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal or is your fault, or even deny doing it?
- Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Threaten to kill you?” Domestic Violence – Signs of Domestic Violence
What is domestic violence?
“One individual systematically abusing another to gain power or control in a domestic or intimate relationship.” In relationships where domestic violence occurs, instead of both partners being equal in the relationship, the balance of power is uneven and the perpetrator tries to maintain control over the victim. New Hope’s Department of Public Health
Domestic violence is not just gaining power and control in a relationship by using physical force. It can come in several different forms: Emotional, Verbal & Psychological Abuse, Financial, Spiritual & Cultural, Sexual & Physical Abuse.
What is the impact of domestic violence on the victims?
If you came from a home where there was domestic violence, then you may know:
“The effects of domestic violence on women (or men) go beyond the immediate physical injuries they suffer at the hands of their abusers. Frequently, domestic violence survivors suffer from an array of psychosomatic illnesses, eating disorders, insomnia, gastrointestinal disturbances, generalized chronic pain, and devastating mental health problems like post-traumatic stress Disorder (PTSD).
Many abused women find it difficult to function in their daily lives because of the effects of domestic violence. Absences from work, due to injuries or visits to the doctor, often cause them to lose their jobs, making them less able to leave their abusive situations. They may feel ashamed that their partners abuse them, see themselves as unworthy of love, and suffer from a significantly diminished self-perception. Because of their feelings of low self-worth, these women become isolated from friends and family and do not participate in social activities common to others in their demographic.” Effects of domestic violence, domestic abuse (on women and children healthy place for your mental health
THE GOOD NEWS IS …
There are options for healing, relief from being controlled and safety if you need it.
Although there it is not always possible to save the relationship, there is more help than ever in our area for people who are involved in domestic violence.
Here are some effective concreate steps that have work for many in your situation:
“Domestic violence survivors need to seek help in coping with the effects of domestic abuse, even if they’ve left the abuser. Whether it’s been days or years since the domestic violence last occurred, domestic abuse survivors can look to their communities for help:
- Contact a local domestic violence support group
- Make an appointment with a therapist who specializes in treating domestic violence survivors
- Create a comprehensive domestic violence safety plan with the help of a victim assistance professional. The plan will include a strategy for getting yourself (and children, if any) to safety during a violent episode as well as a checklist of items to pack when leaving the abusive situation.
- Consider your legal options. Domestic violence is a crime in all 50 states (Domestic Violence Laws). Your local domestic violence shelter can provide you with information and counseling about your legal rights.” Effects of domestic violence, domestic abuse (on women and children healthy place for your mental health
WHAT VICTOR COUNSELING PRACTICE HAS TO OFFER:
In Addition, Victor Counseling Practice providaes:
- We have convenient hours, in the evening and during the day. We accept most insurances. And DSS contracts. At times, we work with people who have financial hardship.
- Dorothy is licensed in NYS and has over 20 experience providing therapy. She is currently working on her doctorate in Counseling Education and co-parenting with families in crisis.
- Call/Text Victor Counseling Practices in Victor, NY at 585-444-1808for a consult or an appointment.
Victor Counseling Practice: Counseling in Victor, NY. Also Servicing Surrounding Areas Such as: Canandaigua, Farmington, Clifton Springs, Geneva, Shortsville, Macedon, Palmyra, Perinton, Pittsford, Fairport and Bloomfield